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The freedom of being misunderstood! 🕊️
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Hi friend, Being misunderstood is one of the hardest things for me to deal with. And unfortunately, it happens often because of who I am: gay, Latino, first-gen. People assume I’m straight. They assume I’m athletic because of my build. They assume I’m not very smart because of how I look. They assume I’m angry when I’m actually hurt. For a long time, I thought it was my responsibility to correct every assumption, explain myself, and make myself understood. But eventually, I realized that people are going to get me wrong sometimes—maybe even often. They’re going to make assumptions and fill in the blanks. Of course it hurts, especially when the misunderstanding comes from people I care about. But not every misunderstanding deserves the same amount of energy. Not everyone needs to understand you. Sometimes, being misunderstood by someone close to you deserves a conversation. Other times, it doesn’t. Sometimes the only thing required is staying connected to yourself and the people who truly know and care for you. Knowing the difference can bring more peace and freedom than you can imagine. I'm always here if you want to work on this together. Coach Jose 💛
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Coach Jose | Respond, Don't React
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