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A practice to help you break negative patterns
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Hi friend, This week, I want to share a practice with you. You can use this anytime you find yourself jumping to conclusions about someone's intentions. In my video, I use the example of one partner brushing off the other. The brushed-off partner immediately jumps to a conclusion: "My partner is mad at me." This is an unhelpful pattern a lot of us fall into. It's a habit of filling in the blanks about someone else’s thoughts or intentions without checking the facts. We notice a behavior, create a story about what it means, and then react to that story as if it were true. But it's not. So instead... First, pause. (Always!) Second, come up with three possible explanations. In this practice, the goal isn't to come up with the right answer; the goal is to break the pattern. Over time, this will help you realize that your first interpretation isn't the only one, and it usually isn't the correct one either. I hope you can give this practice a try this week. Thanks for being part of this community that practices small shifts that help us respond to life with more clarity and less reaction. You're in the right place! Coach Jose 💛
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