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Are you skipping over disappointment?
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Hi friend, I've been focusing on giving myself a chance to feel before making a decision. Specifically, giving myself a chance to feel disappointed before deciding someone else needed to carry my own disappointment. I've noticed that I often skip over the feeling of disappointment. And when I do that, I instead start reaching for certainty. I deicde that, "They don't care." "They never think about me." "This relationship isn't important to them." It's possible that some of those things are true, but I've learned that I'm much more likely to know the difference after I spend some time feeling disappointed. It's important to feel our feelings. All of them. Even the negative ones. I'm going to continue practicing this. If you are too, and if you're working on spending less time reaction and more time responding, then you're in the right place. Thanks for being here. Coach Jose đź’›
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